ITEM TWO - The Brains
Could it be that smoking can become a special, must do ritual and almost sacred act for the brains? And as a consequence, where smoking is concerned, do the brains become controlling of the smoker's life with the smoker no longer in control? Is it possible that the brains have become so conditioned and fixed that they won't allow the smoker to stop? If this is so then some very powerful tools will be needed to release the smoker from the brains' domination and deal with the host of secondary problems that will automatically arise.
ITEM THREE - Habit and Familiarity
Could it be that the smoker becomes familiar with smoking? For example has cigarette smoking become like the spouse in a marriage that's going 'off' - an on/off
love affair with habitual use and abuse, the smoker no longer respecting the agents of comfort and satisfaction? Mindlessly smoking as one might mindlessly make demand upon a 'the spouse' - one moment praising, the next complaining. It can be very easy to miss how powerfully and psychologically binding this state of affairs can be.
ITEM FOUR - Significance
Could it be that cigarette smoking has become of major importance in the smoker's life, it having become one of the few, if not the only, real and meaningful things that the smoker does? And there is perhaps this fear that without the continued presence of cigarettes, life for the smoker will become empty and devoid of meaning?
ITEM FIVE - Rebelliousness
Could it be that within the ongoing developing adult life, the smoker is still acting out, via smoking, the rebellious instincts of youth that may have been one of the prime signals for its take-up? For example, is it an ongoing emotional sustenance
for the smoker to secretly smoke in the restrooms at work? And finds it impossible to surrender these and other illicit pleasures of smoking?
ITEM SIX - Solace
Could it be that the stability and quiet power of the smoker's life gravitates and rotates around the smoking rituals, providing solace at the times when human companionship is absent?
ITEM SEVEN - Self Image
Could it be that the smoker's self-image and ego development so strongly incorporate and feature cigarette smoking that it has become inextricably and permanently woven into the very fabric of the smoker's life?
ITEM EIGHT - Out of Control
Could it be that the whole affair between the smoker and cigarettes is up and running at speed, and accelerating out of control? Where, should the smoker resist smoking by the act of denial, the urge to smoke comes back even stronger upon return to smoking; causing the smoker to smoke more and more with probably less and less value for the cigarettes smoked.
ITEM NINE - Social etc Stress
There is a demand upon a person by the contemporary culture to project an image that is realaxed, cool and confident, so ....Could it be that cigarette smoking is part of the method the smoker uses to reinforce this composure? and project the required
image? and equalise the anxieties and tensions caused by social pressures of all kinds?
We hide behind our roles and if for one moment the threat of appearing naked looms, then its time to reach for a prop or another role. If a smoker, the prop will most likely be a cigarette and the role 'being a smoker'.
ITEM TEN - Composure
Could it be that the smoker fears that if he or she were to get rid of cigarettes, then it would create giant holes within the already developed composure and theatre of the life, and would appear to others as something resembling a piece of erratic swiss cheese?
ITEM ELEVEN - False Enhancement
Could it be that the smoker is completely sure that:
- It is impossible to think creatively without a lit cigarette nestling between the smoker's nicotine stained fingers?
- Not being allowed to smoke in a restaurant would ruin the enjoyment of a good meal?
- That likewise the enjoyment of drinking, driving, playing cards or just about any relaxing pastime or occasion would be ruined if not acompanied by a cigarette or two (or more).
And this need for 'enhancement' (albeit a bogus one) has become so compelling that the smoker fears to leave home without an adequate supply of cigarettes and means to light them up?
ITEM TWELVE - Addiction
Could it be that this ADDICTION to cigarettes has grown to such an impossible size that the smoker is now psychologically and chemically dependent to the 'max' upon cigarette smoke and the toxic substances it contains?
ITEM THIRTEEN - Self Deception
This continues the story from 'ITEM ONE', where it was proposed that our parents and elders radiated a false confidence in cigarettes; a confidence that had been engineered deliberately by the tobacco companies in their greed for exponential increases in profits. And that those of us who 'decided' to smoke inherited this false confidence.
Could it be that the smokers takes this confidence on board and into their lives. Which then makes the smokers DECEPTIVE TO THEMSELVES AND TO OTHERS ABOUT THE EXTENT AND STYLE OF THEIR CIGARETTE SMOKING? Even to the point of deliberately lying to self and others? Even to the point where a total blindeness onsets and they refuse to contemplate the harm that smoking is causing to the body and will continue to cause?
(Cautionary note: This blindness can result in the smoker blaming everybody else as a truth avoidance tactic. For example its not entirely the fault of the government, tobacco companies and ones ancestors if smoking gives the smoker an incurable disease - he or she could have resisted smoking, listened to the naysayers, gathered the evidence for and against and decided for themselves before smoking that first cigarette.)
These selected thirteen insights or 'can openers' should to help to start the process of understanding the nature of the cigarette trap. Clearly the first requirement, absolutely essential for success, is to decide to be COMPLETELY HONEST WITH ONESELF..